Tuesday, May 05, 2015

The Ambiguity of Usefulness ~ 10

"It gets better." 
"Except it doesn't."

I'm not saying that positive thoughts are not good for you, but reality may, or can, or will, slap you really really hard if you are not fully prepared for worse stuffs, or the worst. I've seen some stuffs where some bad situations turn into something good, and on the other hand, turn into something worst. Literally, and not metaphorically. If you ask about the "root cause", let's say, it's a domino effect, although unpredictable. To be honest, I want to blame so-called culture. Unfortunately, some (can I say most?) of us are prisoners of our own choice. So, there you go.

What? But, how?

Let's talk about the combination of filial piety, mixed with "not-so-sure" financial planning and ambivalent marriage. It does sound like a bad situation, but it can happen (remember Murphy's law?). I remembered about someone who's financially drained by her own mother during her pregnancy. Some people said to let it go, or to treat it as a form of filial piety. Here's a thing: the financial issue is caused by personal greed. So, I really wonder if filial piety is something that important, since parents are just human. Nobody's perfect, yes? Although she and her husband seems to have a happy marriage and stable financial situation, those conditions do not stop things become better (well, a healthy baby boy), or worse (in this case, the parent-child relationship). So, in my perspective, "happily ever after" may happen in a ultra-mega-rare condition. Conclusion? Be careful using the term "filial", or, in other case, something you take for granted as a shield to cover your ass. Useful or not, things may turn upside down, even though most people agree that blood is thicker than water, since quote may not help when your fist is already clenched.

On the other hand, some people agree that the combination of "alon-alon-asal-kelakon" ("slow-but-sure") and a-marriage-with-pure-purpose is one of the true paths in order to make things better, although there's no guarantee that the journey will be a non-problematic one. Poking one of the "seven-deadly-sins" and merge it into life may be a recipe to disaster. Too many real samples for this formula, so I guess, up to now, it works just fine as long as you know the limit. I know it sounds like a method for campers (ask gamers to understand more about this term), but results are what I can see, while expectations are not something I really want to comment (a little bit, maybe). Conclusion? Some things may require a lot of time, with the additional parameter of "as long as you think that it is good for you, and also others". Again, useful or not, there's no guarantee on the transformations that you will encounter. If you see it fit, as long as the situation permits (don't forget to do risk assessment), then just try it. "You can't hurry love", sang Phil Collins.

So, what's the point of this post? Probably none, but you can think this as a note that "your way" may be suitable for others, or may not. Perhaps, there's no static formula for life as it may be useful for one group but not for the others, and there's no clear separator between useful and worthless. As an additional note, what are the differences between good and bad, and where did they come from? Were they born as products of justification? Where did all of these come from? And how? And why?

"Okay, some things get better, and some don't."

That, I can agree.

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